As people get older, they run into more health problems that make life increasingly difficult. Their problems may include being unable to drive responsibly, forgetting to pay their bills, missing their medications, or forgetting to eat. Sometimes physical mobility can be affected as well, and they may feel pain in some parts of their body. But it can get worse if an elderly loved one refuses to accept help, or to even accept that they’re not as young as they once were. If that’s the case, elderly intervention may be necessary.
Starting an Elderly Intervention
This is a foreign concept for many, however, when someone you love is in a situation where they are no longer able to maintain a quality of life that you feel is acceptable, and sometimes not even safe, it can feel hopeless. The diminishing hope combined with frustration around the loved ones refusal of aid can cause conflict and impact the relationship. While the media depicts a dramatic situation often filled with hostility and anger interventions are not necessarily like that and can in fact be a starting place for healing that can even lead to a relationship more fulfilling that it had been in the past.
A key component of a successful elderly intervention is to make sure that the elderly person retains control in the decisions to be made regarding possible solutions to any existing problem. It must be made clear that the independence of the elderly person will be acknowledged and respected.
It’s not always appropriate to simply send an elderly person away to a home for the elderly. In many cases, the senior wants to remain in the same home where they’ve spent a significant portion of their lives, where they’ve raised children and grown old with a loving spouse. That is still possible with solutions such as a family member or a caretaker coming in to help the senior cope.
It is best if no major changes are suggested right off the bat. Elderly people are more prone to doing things as they’ve always done. It’s better if changes are small at first to give time for the senior to get used to the changes. With these small steps, a lot of change can occur in the long run, with the wiling cooperation of the elderly.
The Need for a Professional
Even concerned loved ones may underestimate the problems that seniors have to deal with, so a pro can help everyone understand the big picture. Most people are concerned about physical ailments and the prospect of failing to take medications properly. But other problems can involve eating right and proper sanitation. Then there are emotional problems too.
Then there are the financial aspects to consider as well. When is a senior still fit to decide how they can spend their money? This can be a very sensitive topic, especially when family members disagree on the financial decisions.
A Professional Interventionist can help make sure that the intervention remains all about supporting the elderly while they also retain some control over their lives. It’s not enough that they’re comfortable and safe. They need to feel respected, and in their old age they’ve certainly earned that too.